Chinese Proverb Wednesday

Chinese Proverb Wednesday

Chinese Proverb Wednesday

If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow.

This is extremely hard for most people.  Some people just enjoy the opportunity that anger gives them to blow up.  Some people , though, wish they could control themselves better so they can act differently in a moment of anger.  A moment of patience gives you your control back.

I have found the easier way to approach this is to practice having NO reaction to something.  This is actually an active practice, not a passive one like you may think.  If someone makes you angry, just look them in the eyes and practice NO reaction.  While you’re looking someone in the eye, put your mind’s attention on the breath going in and out of your lungs, so your mind has something to focus on internally rather than externally.

After about 3 full seconds, you’ll find your balance return.  Try it, and see if the few seconds it takes to do these two things gives you pause in a moment of anger.  You’ll then be in a better position to choose how you’d like to behave after the pause.  You’ll be giving yourself control.  The more control you have, the fewer mistakes (and regrets) you’ll make.

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New Years Resolution Action Idea

A collection of written notes of positive things that have happened all year

A collection of written notes of positive things that have happened all year

A New Year always brings a time of reflection and new beginnings.  I feel energized to clean my mental house and get myself on a new track.  Isn’t that why we make New Years Resolutions?  I resolve to:_________.

What type of New Years Resolutions do I make?:  I like my New Years Resolutions to be positive action steps that will enhance my life.   I like to do something positive rather than stop doing something negative.  Sometimes I create goals that become part of my New Years Goal list.  I might have a wish to exhibit a specific behavior like “be more positive” or ‘be more grateful” or “do something kind for a member of my family every day”.  Sometimes I try to create an action step that will help me accomplish this behavior.

A New Years Resolution Idea with an Action Step:  Here’s an idea that will go on my list of potential New Years Resolutions.  (It’s only November, so I ‘m not making my official list yet, only collecting ideas).  Maybe this year I might want to express more gratitude for small everyday things.  Here’s a good idea that might help me accomplish this goal:  I can write a little note with something positive that has happened to me and keep the notes collected in a jar all year long.  When New Years Eve comes around, I can open the jar and read all the good things that have happened.  What a nice way to express gratitude and focus on the positive!  Maybe I’ll have a Family Note Jar, we’ll see.

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Chinese Proverb Wednesday

Chinese Proverb Wednesday

Chinese Proverb Wednesday

Be not afraid of going forward slowly, be afraid only of standing still.

This needs to be put into context.  Standing still is not so bad.  Sometimes it takes standing still in order to bring a calm that provides balance.  I think that’s important.  But I don’t think that’s what this proverb is speaking to.

Grow.  That’s what this proverb is speaking to.  Growing means moving forward.  Growing takes bravery.  That’s where the “Be not afraid” part comes in.  Have the bravery to move yourself into places that may make you feel uncomfortable because they are new, but they are in your best interests.

I like to think about moving forward in two ways:  One way is with my head.  What is it that I “should” do.  And another way with my heart:  What is it that I feel I “want” to do.  Then evaluate them both and move forward accordingly.  If I feel uncomfortable, that’s a sign that my head needs to step in and make me do what needs to be done.  Remember, many Baby Steps can get you from here to there just as well as a few Giant Steps.  Maybe even better.

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I figured out I have an Authoritative Parenting Style

imagesI’m an Authoritative Parent:  I didn’t realize there were different types of parenting styles.  I pretty much copied my Mother with a few adjustments.  Looking back, my mother was a really good parent.  She was consistent, stable and approachable.  I respected her.  Well, I’m an authoritative parent as was my Mother, I believe.  Mom, I’ll ask your thoughts on this.

What is an Authoritative Parenting Style?  This style of parenting is sometimes referred to as “democratic” and involves a child-centric approach in which parents hold high expectations for their children.  We:  Listen to our children, Encourage Independence, Place limits, consequences and expectations on our children’s behavior, Express warmth and nurturance, Encourage children to discuss options, Administer fair and consistent discipline.

I can hear my own words to my kids just typing this list.  My son is 18.  I said these words a few weeks ago.  “Now, you know there has to be a consequence for what you did, don’t you?”  Even though he’s away at school, he still lives in our house during the summer and holidays and we pay for his school.  So when he’s home, there are certain expectations that need to be upheld.  He’s a great kid and I miss his company so much.  He’s an adult, yes, but he still lives under our care.  He’s not independent yet.

I’m very happy to make this realization.  I feel like I have a good balance.  Balance can be felt.  Being patient and deliberate with my actions have certainly helped.  I am very much like my mother in that I don’t exhibit impulsive behavior.  I think about how I should behave, then I behave that way.  Think first, act second.

You have Choices:  If you have young children and you have the self-awareness to be deliberate about the kind of parent you’d like to be, then I’d suggest doing a little research on the Authoritative Parent.  Not everyone feels the same about how to parent their kids.  If the Authoritative Style isn’t right for you, then you can go searching for the style that feels right for you.  Just go look.  And Copy.  Look and Copy.  Isn’t that how we all learn?

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Chinese Proverb Wednesday

Chinese Proverb Wednesday

Chinese Proverb Wednesday

Do Good, Reap Good.  Do Evil, Reap Evil.

Just sayin…….

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